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Relationship Advice

August 19th, 2003

Mary writes:

I'm a girl who, apparently, likes chat lines. I've been off them for
awhile but, a couple months ago I came back on and please tell me: Is it possible to fall for a 37 year old man who seemly likes the company in chatting w/ me? I know I'm 18, almost 19 but with a adult mind, and I kind of feel strange to know that he lives in Toronto! Not far from me and now, he wants to meet me? I had this situation before and someone suggested me to stay back, and I did but, this time I want to take a chance? Anyone, It doesn't matter, tell me what I should do. I am tired of being alone and helplessly in love.

Trevor	Mary, I do not believe you are as mature as you think you are. An 18 year old is never as mature as they think they are. Especially if you claim to have "a adult mind". Now I don't claim to have AN adult mind either. I've been known to do some immature things: I still prefer cereals with marshmallows, I watch Rocky and Bullwinkle during breakfast, I spend a fair amount of time spitting water through my front teeth while in the shower, I laugh when people say "bum" or "poo", I enjoy beating Steve at video games, I like... where was I going with all this? I don't know either. Anyway, my advice is to take it slow. Don't rush out to meet him, because last night on Law and Order: Special Vicitims Unit there was some crazy shit about the internet and things like that. Clearly it is where murderers now hunt prey.
Steve	Mary, I'm glad you came to us first. I think I've seen enough Jenny Jones shows to know that what you've got here is the real deal. I don't want to jinx things, but let me just say this... you might want to start calling the chapels honey because when you two lay eyes on each other it's going to be holy matrimonerrrific!
Paul	If you do decide to go I would like you to know what the concequences of this decision will be. Initially the forums on www.level6wizard.com will flood with first doubt, then jealousy, then great hope. ork2571: r u serious? the femalia is really coming to see you? C&Cgod: yes, she said she would. this will be the greatest day of my life. even better then the day that i finished final fantasy 7 with only a titan sword and lichen dust. ork2571: is she going to stay with you at your parents house or do you think you'll be able to hang out in the back room of Hollywood Video (......you are the assistant manager)? C&Cgod:yeah, my parents said it was cool. they're glad i'm having a girl over. they thought i was gay. ork2571:OMG, if you touch here booby you have to promise to tell me. i have a water balloon and i think it would feel the same. Do you see what kind of madness this could create. Just because your lonely online "stud" said that his favorite book series was also "the babysitters club" doesn't mean that you are meant for each other. What I'm saying is that you should be careful. This could have great concequences.
Chris	okay time to be serious... I think that if you went to go and see this man, that it would be a really bad scene. Use your head and be cool. Remember when Brandon was going to go and visit Lucy in Minneapolis on Beverly Hills 90210? rethink your strategy. There is a good chance that when you arrive, he'll let you in on his criminal history, or how much medication he is being prescribed...

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