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Looking for Normal Men

July 14th, 2003

Jenny writes:

Given that you are a group of relatively normal young men, one of which is
on the way to marriage, I thought you might have an answer to my question:
Where can I meet NORMAL men?

My friends are all about Lavalife but the whole thing feels a little strange
to me. I'm not ready to meet random people for drinks based on their
picture. It almost feels like I'm picking a boy out of the sears
catalogue....... who likes to shop at Sears anyway? Not me. Anytime someone
sets me up with a friend of theirs he ends up being a total freak.
So.......where can I meet a nice, normal guy?

Trevor	CHRIS SARACINO ANSWERS ON BEHALF OF TREVOR KEALEY: At weddings! At my wedding, the rest of the guys in the band were catching bouquest and garters, flipping women around on the dancefloor, and looking like they just came out of a White Stripes soundcheck. Weddings provide the opportunity for socializing. Check it out yo! TREVOR KEALEY ANSWERS ON HIS OWN BEHALF: That's right Chris. And all you have to do is to return your RSVP so the wedding expects you. Also you need to get invited to a wedding first. For example, at my wedding, I saw several of my friend's chatting up my new cousin-in-law. I don't know how any of them faired, but love was in the air! It was a miracle!
Steve	Thanks for the question, Jen. You seem to be really hung up on finding a "normal" guy to be with, but I think that a special girl like yourself should be looking for somebody extraordinary and not settling for the status quo. I've found a special group of guys that I like to spend time with at the 24-hr video game and internet cafe on Bank Street near Somerset. These guys like to play first-person shooter games versus each other on LAN networks and talk about TV programs like the original Star Trek series or the Jetsons. They're all really cool and nice, and I'd love to introduce you to Watson, who is also a level nine wizard.
Paul	What is "normal"? Normal can mean many things to different people. For example: Chris thinks Capcom t-shirts and talking about genitalia is normal. For others it might be different. Not wrong, but different. My suggestion to you is to do things that you enjoy and go places where you have a good time. This way you will meet people that like doing the same thing as you. I can vouch for this. I have met some really great people at Barefax and KFC. Good luck.
Chris	Hey Jen, I know a nice normal guy, who will love you unconditionally, and who is willing to take a place in your life, and be there for you, and support you in anything that you do. He's kind and nice, and he has a beard. His name is Jesus, and you can find him anywhere. All you have to do is put your hands together, and visualize him, and then he appears! Try it out.

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