What Would the Setbacks Do?
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Part II
April 30th, 2003
Schnooter writes:
Don't think you've posted any advice for my current issue, though, now, there's yet more wacky info for you to consider before dishing out words of 'wisdom'.
Since the last time I wrote Kevin (the guy) has called and we've hung out once. After awkward conversation, he made reference to sex - blatantly! I'm not the type of girl to randomly sleep with some dude that doesn't consistently respect me, therefore I left. Probably should have spoken to him, or SOMETHING, but I'm so tired of these games I got angry and left.
Yeah, the problem is that I do like this guy and would like to get to know him better (though not through sudden sex) - what should I do about this character???
 Trevor |
I think you should follow your gut and leave. You've given us no evidence as to why you like this guy. He doesn't consistently respect you! There's no excuse for that.
But the one thing you'll want to make sure of first is that he's not a spy. He may work for the British Secret Service, and may need to be secretive about himself and yet still expect sex from acquaintances. Particularly if you have a somewhat suggestive name, like Pussy Galore, Holly Goodhead, or Kissy Suzuki. If he is a spy, I say hang on to him - especially if you like awesome adventures! |
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 Steve |
Who's Kevin?!? Shnooter, don't do this to me baby... |
 Paul |
There definately seems to be something wrong here. I just saw the reality based movie "The Real Cancun" and I really learned a lot. If I can apply what I learned from the movie to real life (since it is a "reality" based movie), the advice I would give you is: Loosen up! If watching the girls in this movie taught me anything, it was the fact that after a little tequila, anything goes.
The problem that Kevin might has is that he might be mixing up the way to treat a Canadian women compared to the ones south of the border. Slap him with a donut to knock some sense into him. Canadian gals deserve to be treated with class. |
 Chris |
If a guy doesn't consistently respect you? What does consistent mean?
Should it be a Ghostbuster stream type consistency, or a Duncan Hines cake mix consistency. Why don't you get a hint, and realize that this dude is weird, he is unpredictable, which quite obviously makes you uncomfortable, and move on. Stop trying to grasp for things that aren't there. If something like his behaviour, and your ability to gauge that, is difficult, chances are that you won't be able to change it. p.s. The fact that you said "sudden sex", makes you a loser. |